Good Morning Everyone. I'm still fairly to new and slowly working my way around the forums I'm drawn to. This one brings me here today because my intuition tells me I need outside help on my love life. My gifts work wonders for everyone else, but as they say, you really aren't meant to use them for your own benefit.

Lately I've been feeling like a passing fancy to the guys I meet. I don't go looking and I let life place them on my path as He sees fit, so I do not believe it's me looking for love in all the wrong places. I've been through enough to know to take everything in the first month or two with a grain of salt, but I'm wondering if there will be a guy soon who really does mean "Where have you been all my life?" and "You are wonderful and amazing." I know there is a lesson to be learned with every failed attempt at love, but I'm wondering what I still have to learn that I have to go through the EXACT same thing the last 3 tries I've made......we meet, there are sparks, he says all the right things, and magically 1-2 mths later, he disappears with not even so much as a text or call. I feel like a shiny new toy being given to a 1st grader with the attention span of a fruitfly. Any psychics or intuitives out there who wouldn't mind offering some insight into what I might need to learn or do in order to break this hurtful cycle? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Lovinmylife: I'm 29. I think you may be right that I give off a vibe that I want a relationship. I do my best to hide it, but I guess I wear my emotions on my sleeve. I do have to say that I'm up front and honest about what I'm looking for so they may be feeding off of that....and I never get "friendly" because I certainly know that the right one is going to stick around for more than that. Their actions tend to match their words for awhile. I see now (thanks to you) that when they figure out they are not going to get "friendliness", they move on. I don't really have a type. They last 2 I met were set up by other people who felt these were good guys. Even though I get lonely sometimes, I'm comfortable being alone. I think right now, I may be going through a lonely phase...otherwise these deadbeats wouldn't get me down so much! haha I guess after years of being out of the dating circuit, things have changed a lot. Thank you so much for taking time out of your day to help! I hope to return the favor.

i don't have a lot of advice but i totally commisserate with being unable to use my own "gifts" for my own benefit.

i can read the thoughts of everyone else BUT the one person that i seriously need to read of course.

Well like I said lovinmylife....I can do for others where I can't do for myself. haha Sometimes I get a flood of information where I can't shut up, other times it comes in spurts. It's all about decifering what comes through. I do get the feeling that if we keep communicating, we'll find a lot in common when it comes to the love situation. Your statement about being sick of yourself and wanting LOVE from a man....I've said that a time or two! It wouldn't be an on again off again thing you are going through would it? That's what I've had for 11 years and just when I think it's over for good, he's trying to come back. I have also thrown myself into community activities and doing things with my daughter, only because I'm not financially able to consider going back to school. It's been nagging at me to go back to study some form of counciling. I admire you for getting back into school. Well, I hope we can stay in touch. The more I get to know you as a person, the more in tune the information becomes.

I know what you mean Taiana. Some people are open books where their thoughts drip off of them. I'm thinking that not being able to read people for your own personal gain could be considered a good thing though. Some people out there would abuse that privilage that SHOULD be used only to understand and help yourself heal. It would be nice if we were all filled with good intent.

Hi Lil Pisces, I am also a female Pisces, 39 years old and had many long term relationships (1-5 years) that never ended in marriage. I felt the same way you are feeling. knowing I always give my all in a relationship couldn't figure out why? My first real relationship at 17 lasted for 5 years (with another Pisces ironically) and I think it was more the fact that we were able to connect on so many spiritual levels and had so much the same points of view that kept it going that long. Even after we separated the friendship continued another 15 years when we fell out of touch. Just got married (first time at 36) 3 years ago to another Pisces (talk about can't help myself lol) and he is 16 years my junior (not my norm I am not a typical "cougar" lol). He is faithful a good stepfather to my 9 year old and as most Pisces mature beyond his earth years (most of the time). Before I married I literally spent 6-1/2 years devoting all to my son and was not looking when I found my husband either. There is hope and love for you. As a Pisces of 29 I am sure you know nothing ever really comes easy to us except raw emotion (heart on the sleeve I get that all the time) and great intuition and advice (for others) for all it's worth thought I would share. There are plenty of fish in the sea lol, but there is only one you so take your time and you will find all you seek.