I have been married for about four years now, and we have had so much bad happen in our relationship no matter what we do to prevent it. I really want to work things out and he says he does too. I was hoping someone could do a reading for us to let us know if things are going to get better or worse. My birthdate is 4/1/1976 and his is 9/25/1982. I just want to thank any posters ahead of time for there efforts and advice.
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Tarot » Help! Is my future going to be bleak
Friday, November 6, 2009 3:15 PST
Hi Firesign,
Have you been together for quite a few years altogether? Like a couple for two or more years, then married for four? I just get the number seven here.
Life is challenging in the early years of any relationship, both marriage or defacto, and I feel you are simply experiencing those teething problems involved in setting up house, combining finances and learning each other's habits, etc. It can take a number of years to adjust to all that and sometimes I think we all expect to "know" everything about the other after only a couple of years. It don't work like that!! Adn there's a thing called the "seven year itch" which you might be experiencing.
Life won't get worse, and you don't have bleak times to look forward to, so rest easy on that. I think there is a case of high expectations going on here, but can't see if that's you expecting too much of him or the other way around. Someone in this partnership needs to ease up and the more I think about it, the more I think it's him. Is he a bit tight with money? Or are you a bit of a spendthrift? One of you seems to have an attitude of "life's too short, that bill can wait" while the other is saying "no, no, no!!". Neither of you is actually wrong, y'know :) You both need to find a common ground with your spending. One of you is a budgeter, the other is a saver. Arrange your finances to suit; it's the best way. The budgeter should be the one who allocates money to the bills and other every day expenses, while the saver keeps some money back for emergencies, yearly expenses (car rego, etc) and holidays.
But there also needs to be a "pool" of money for leisure and fun - y'know, USELESS spending. A kitty, if you like.
You are both taking things far too seriously and I'm getting that materialism is rearing its ugly head just a bit too much in this equation. Think about what makes the both of you happy and focus on doing as much of that as possible. Money flows when the energy is not blocked, so the more you worry, the less money will come in that is actually "free" money.
Throw the odd party here and there too. You're both young yet, so try not to tie yourselves down to too many financial obligations. I just feel that as a couple, you both need to live this part of your lives with as much fun and ease of living as you can, rather than be tied down to too many large debts. In your mid to late thirties, I see a growing family.
There is a lot of love in your partnership and I believe that will carry you through.
So the main message here is: RELAX and ENJOY. Life doesn't have to be all about struggle and hardship. Strike a compromise with your finances and you just might find things easing a bit. There is a mild health problem somewhere too, and it's to do with the stomach. Could be you, so please keep your eye on anything which makes you feel a bit "odd" and get it treated before it becomes something more than mild.
Hope this makes some sense! Let me know; feedback is always a good thing :))
Friday, November 6, 2009 20:56 PST
Thank you so much cris1962. It was a pretty precise reading. We will be married for four years this month. We have had tremendous financial problems that are slowly getting better. We have been seperated for about a year now because of our money situation. He was laid off many times and he had to move in with his family and I had to take the kids and stay with mine. We are supposed to move back in together in May, but a lot of people are trying to tell me that he has probably cheated on me after so long of a time and that we will keep having problems. After reading your post it gave me some hope for the future and discribed both of us to a T. Thank you again.
Friday, November 6, 2009 21:05 PST
I forgot to also tell you that I suffer from Crohn's disease and tend to get bad flayer ups that land me in the hospital if I am not careful. I am surprised you caught that. Your very good.
Saturday, November 7, 2009 2:17 PST
You husband has not cheated on you. Who are these negative people who say this to you? He works hard for you and the marriage, and of course, like all human beings under great duress, he wonders if it's all worth it due to the stress you're both under. He may have chatted to the odd female, but as far as I can see, that's it :) And gee, I don't mean to sound rude, but you would've had as much chance to "cheat" as him, eh? Sad to see double standards are still prevalent in this world gone mad!! You just stick to your guns and your faith. That'll get you both through.
But glad the rest of the reading made sense for you. Good luck with everything. Happier times are a-comin :))
Saturday, November 7, 2009 10:01 PST
I am so glad that you had responded to my post. You are right these people have really no idea what is going on. I have had chances myself too but never acted on anything. You have hit everything right on the nail. Your amazing. Thanks so much for the hope and for making my day.
Saturday, November 7, 2009 14:25 PST
Hey cris...Its Danielle.
Can you tell me anything about where Ryan might stay when he gets out of jail on the 12th? As of now he is homeless...I am sick maybe more like uber stressed with worry...thanks for your help before. It continues to be a comfort to me. Would you like a tarot reading?
Saturday, November 7, 2009 19:12 PST
I'd love a tarot reading! Lots going on in my life at the moment and not all good :)
Ryan will opt to stay at a shelter for a while I think, then he may try to hook up with ... well I get a grand parent. He wants to avoid his step mother and father and his mother as well (very good move considering). He'd love to be able to stay with you, but I don't think you have the physical room or the emotional space for this at the moment. He'll get a job through the shelter, probably a short order cook, and then move on eventually once he is able to arrange staying with this grandparent. Cant' see where this gp lives really, but it's somewhere hilly and a reasonable distance from you. His healing will begin once he leaves prison, and in about 12 months, he'll be feeling a lot better about himself. He also won't make contact with his immediate family (except his brother) as the pain is still too raw for him to bear. I can't see him forming anything with them either until he's in his late 20's, early thirties. He'll always be in contact with you though, and I see you joining him in this hilly place now and then for the odd holiday or weekend.
Hope this helps you some :))
Sunday, November 8, 2009 5:28 PST
Namaste Chris. Would you please take on my request for a reading? lol
There seems to be few takers. ; )
It is a simple question. What lies ahead?
I promise you that this is as specific as it needs to be; you will have only ease in reading for me, pinkie promise.
If you have the time, I would be honored to hear your wisdom.
Blessings,
in love and light love and light love and light
~Ahliyah
